Attributes:

Accommodating
Gentle
Indecisive
Procrastinator
Even-tempered
Reserved
Avoidant
Introspective
Laid back
Mellow
Sympathetic
Pleasant and Patient
Tolerant
Steady
Loyal
Indifferent
Stoic
Deliberate
Generous
Unmotivated

Attributes:

Detail Oriented
Conscientious
Critical
Systematic
Logical
Rigid
Practical
Perfectionist
Reliable
Cautious
Rule-bound
Analytical
Precise
Calculating
Proficient
Planner
Consistent
Score-keeper
Self-sacrificing
Disciplined

The Leaf Green Relationships

Bear + Honeybee

Loyal Leaf Green

Harmonious Relationship When you mix the grounded green of a Bear with the golden yellow of a Honeybee, you receive a beautiful leaf green. When in tune, this relationship is LOYAL LEAF GREEN. Loyalty is the cornerstone of both of these personality types. The Bear and the Honeybee are the two most loyal of all the personalities. The devotion that can be felt when these two are in tune is unsurpassed. They are both very grounded and introspective individuals meaning their actions are likely, very well thought-out. They are also likely to be very cautious and can easily get in sync. They both value knowing what is expected of them and value dependability and loyalty. Both of these personality types are very deep thinkers, with the Bear contemplating and answering the deep questions to life to come up with the “WHY” while the Honeybee is plotting and planning the best way to accomplish things so that they know exactly “HOW” they will get it done. These are traits that they are likely to respect and admire in one another, only intensifying the loyalty they feel. Both the Honeybee and the Bear are internal, slow processors, ensuring they will not make impulsive decisions. The Bear can help the Honeybee shift their focus from always being on task to also investing in relationships. The Honeybee can assist the Bear in putting action to the plan.

Laborious Leaf Green

Dissonant Relationship When not in tune, or dissonant, there is no harmony in this pairing. When these two are not working well together and attempting to meet each other’s needs, both feel they are carrying the load in the relationship. This LABOROUS LEAF GREEN dynamic occurs due to the stark differences in the Honeybee being task driven, concrete, and logical and the Bear being relationship oriented and abstract thinking. The Honeybee has a need to accomplish the task and have everything done, therefore, they frequently take on the burden of the tasks. The Bear is not driven by the task, in fact, the Bear is exhausted by being on task and must go hibernate to re-energize after being on task. This creates a tendency for the Honeybee to feel overly burdened and perhaps even resentful that they carry the load of the project at hand but also the load of all the tasks to be done. However, the Honeybee is so busy tasking, the Bear is like to feel the need to carry the load of the relationship itself. Their opposite thought style of concrete vs abstract can also lead to significant conflict and miscommunications. The Honeybee is very concrete thinking, they take everything as literal and absolute whereas the Bear is swimming in 100 shades-of-gray in their very figurative, philosophical and fluid thought patterns. In other words, for the Honeybee there are two options, things are either right or wrong, good or bad, win or lose, all or nothing, perfect or a failure; this is a stark contrast to the Bear’s worldviews where there are very few, if any, absolutes. This leads to many break downs in communication. For example, if a comment is made such as “wow, that is a pretty gazebo, I want one of those for our yard.” The Honeybee starts spinning on the details of making that happen and believes we are planning to build the gazebo, they begin questioning “where will we put it, do we actually need it, how often will we use it, how often do you have to water seal it, what size will it be,…” The Bear on the other hand heard and perceived none of this. The Bear simply heard and/or thought “that’s a pretty gazebo.” These tendencies exacerbate the perceived division of labor and load because the Bee perceives that the Bear never follows thru on the tasks but to the Bear, they never actually planned to. This can grow into trust issues and resentments.

Things to Remember:

The Honeybee in this relationship must be mindful about their tendency to continually take on more and more tasks or projects. They tend to take on these tasks then later become resentful that the bulk of the load is on their shoulders. This, mixed with their log book of every wrong ever committed, lends itself to the potential of resentments. Therefore, they need to develop more willingness to vocalize needs for help. The Bear on the other hand must be aware of their tendency to sit back and let the Bee take on the load. They must force themselves to be more proactive in taking action on the tasks. Additionally, the Bear has to be mindful that the Honeybee is not disengaged from relationship, they are strictly contributing to the relationship by getting things done.

Bear Attributes:

Accommodating, Gentle, Indecisive, Procrastinator, Even-tempered, Reserved, Avoidant, Introspective, Laid back, Mellow, Sympathetic, Pleasant and Patient, Tolerant, Steady, Loyal, Indifferent, Stoic, Deliberate, Generous, Unmotivated

Honeybee Attributes:

Detail Oriented, Conscientious, Critical, Systematic, Logical, Rigid, Practical, Perfectionist, Reliable, Cautious, Rule-bound, Analytical, Precise, Calculating, Proficient, Planner, Consistent, Score-keeper, Self-sacrificing, Disciplined